Monday, April 16, 2018

If I Had My Life to Live Over... ( If I can relive my life)

Erma Bombeck was an American humorist who achieved great popularity for her newspaper column that described suburban home life from the mid-1960s until the late 1990s 

This was written after she found out she was dying of cancer.

"I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day. 
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.” There would have been more “I love you’s.” More “I’m sorry’s.”

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute…look at it and really see it .. live it .and never give it back.Stop sweating the small stuff. Don’t worry about who doesn’t like you, who has more, or who’s doing what.Instead, let’s cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.
Let’s think about what we've been blessed with. And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally.
I hope you all have a blessed day..."

Friday, September 11, 2015


I t may be a treasure which you suspect is lying under ground. It may be any other objects which you want to locate underground.

Materials required:
 Two lengths of copper wire 1/6 " (4.2 mm)thick and measuring 34" long.

Procedure : Bend the wires at the last 6" to at right angles form an L.The Ls serve as handles.The long arms serve as pointers.

Hold the 2 handle rods  rods lightly, one in each hand in front of you..They should be 12'' apart parallel to each other and parallel to the ground.The grip should be held loosely in a vertical position.

Now commence walking over the ground concentrating on the object of search.
If it is a water pipe you are seeking to find, then when you approach or cross the buried pipe, the divining rods will tremble and swivel inwards and cross over each other at the precise spot.

However if your blood group is Rh negative, the rods swivel outwards opposite to each other instead of crossing in ward.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Oil less garlic pickles

Garlic pickles:
Ingredients : 
1 Garlic 200g
2. Tamarind the size of a small lime 2 cm dia.
3 Dry chilles (long type) 12 to 15
4 Mustard  2 ½   tsp
5. Fenugreek  ¾  tsp
6  . Turmeric powder less than ½ tsp
7. Hing powder about 4 pinches.
 8 Salt – about 1 tsp (scoopfull) Actual quantity will be subject to taste.
(one or two green chillies cut in to small pieces is optional)
Method .
Garlic to be split in to individual pearls poured in to the kadai (வாணலி) with boiling water enough to immerse all the pearls fully and let it boil for not more than a minute and then allowed to cool. After that the it can be peeled and kept .
The tamarind ball is to be dissolved a cup of water and filtered through fingers to remove shells and un-dissolved particles and kept ready
The chillies, 2 tsp of mustard (1/2 tsp for seasoning) and fenugreek are to be dry roasted (without oil) –each of them separately -in a very low flame. After the roasted materials are cooled they can be ground together in a mixie.
Now put the kadai on stove without oil and pour the ½ tsp and then light the burner.  (very low flame ) . The moment it starts crackling pour  a little water to avoid the mustard becoming burnt.
Then add the garlic pearls  , add the turmeric powder and  mix it thoroughly.Soon after pour the powder from the mixie and turn it well . Add the tamarind extract and slowly raise the flame. If water is too less to cook ,the tamarind add enough water just to ensure smooth cooking. When the raw smell/taste of tamarind disappears add a portion of the salt ( the rest can be added based tasting later). Now you can taste the gravy and decide if more of chillies or salt is to be added and add accordingly. Dry chillie powder can be added if anyone wants it more hot.
Over heating is to be avoided.  The hing can be added just before stopping the fire and mix it well. The contents are to be cooled and transferred to clean vessel after preheating it both outside and inside to sterilize it. The spoon put in is also to be preheated on naked flame to sterilize it.

Similarly we can make pickles from tomatoes. Tomatoes  are to be cut in to very small pieces and added to kadai after mustard has crackled. No blanching.

Goose berry,  is to be washed and cut to small pieces and seeds removed, No blanching. Instead of tamarind extract lime juice (about 2 tsp can be added at the end before adding hing.

If you choose to add the green chilles it can be added at the beginning along with tomatoes or goose berries.
The combination of chilli,mustard fenugreek powder can be used to prepare vegetable curry as well relacing the usual sambar podi.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012


Dear all I wish to share with you the views of an American blogger Bob
Lonsberry  regarding hard work and the evils of food stamps, welfare measures etc given to the US people which make them more and more dependent on the State with no productivity for the State and no improvement in their own lives. Let us view this  in the Indian context and see how we spoil the psyche of the BPL ( Below Poverty Line) families with our free rations and free utility articles . These aids given, more with the vote catching in mind , than helping the poor makes them to choose an easy way of life and avoid doing serious work . It is detrimental to the country and also the people themselves in the long run.

Written May 15, 2012
Gujarat is a state in the west of India, home to the Gujarati people, some 60 million of them, who speak their own language and have their own history.
Mahatma Gandhi was born there. And so was the guy who runs the motel in your town. Odds are, at any rate.

In the United States, some 40 percent of all the hotels and motels are owned by Indians – almost all of them from Gujarat. Among American economy motels, specifically, more than half the owners are Gujarati.

There is something called the Asian-American Hotel Owners Association. It is a powerful professional group with more than 10,000 members. Some 90 percent of those members have the same last name – Patel – a name dominant in Gujarat.

Which raises the question: How did the Indians, particularly from one relatively small region of India, come to dominate the American lodging industry?
The answer, in short: Hard work.

About 30 years ago, Gujarati began immigrating to the United States.
They typically brought with them the clothes on their back and an ancestral work ethic.

They also carried the desire to be the boss, to be business owners, not to be another man’s employee. Like generations of previous immigrants, they carried an American dream of their own creation and distinctive bent.

Coincidentally, about 30 years ago, there was a downturn in the
American motel industry. Low-end motels were hard work and offered a limited return, and owners were eager to get out of them.

A handful of Gujarati stumbled across this opportunity. The motels could be had for almost nothing up front, and they came with housing for the immigrant family. And that immigrant family provided a roundthe-clock workforce. It was incredibly hard and endless work, but the efforts of the immigrants were up to the task, and these first few families found first a living, and then success.

And they told their friends.

And they expanded, by buying more motels, and by moving up the economic ladder to larger and nicer motels and hotels.

Back home, as others sought to emigrate to the United States, word of success in the lodging industry spread, and newcomers replicated that success, finding for themselves motel opportunities.

Interestingly, these people came with almost no money. And they came with no background whatsoever in the lodging or hospitality industries. All they brought was a willingness to embrace any opportunity and to work hard to make it a success.  
And they have done that.

In something between 20 and 30 years, Indians – who are about 1 percent of the American population – have come to dominate this industry. They have built solid lives for themselves and their employees, and their children have gone on to be educated and move into the professions.

It is a stunning success story.
It is a reminder of the potential prosperity of immigrants who go to work instead of to the welfare office.

It is proof of the continued vigor and opportunity of the American economy and the free-enterprise system.

It is the American way proven again by newcomers’ hands.
But it is more than that.

It is also something of an indictment of native-born Americans who have lingered in poverty and government dependence.

Part of the horrific welfare plague is the curse of idleness it imposes on recipients. The slavery of dependence takes initiative from people, and strips them of the instinct of self-reliance. They become good at nothing, and particularly good at doing nothing.

And with the cloak of entitlement drawn over their eyes, they fail to see liberating opportunity, they become unwilling to do the backbreaking work necessary to lift themselves out of their circumstances.

When the first few dozen essentially penniless Gujarati discovered the opportunity of the then-dying motel business, there were tens of millions of native-born Americans, food stamps in hand, who were blind to the opportunity around them. While the newly arrived Indians worked day and night, the entitled Americans kept drawing a check, and now that the Gujarati children are successful business people and college graduates, the dependent Americans wallow in the mire of another generation of welfare shame.

The moral of this story?

Good for them, and shame on us.

It doesn’t matter where you’re from, it matters how you live. You get out of life in proportion to what you put in.

These Indians have been better Americans that some of us who were born here. They have lived closer to our traditional values, and their choices have been truer to our heritage.

Sadly, some of us will resent them. Instead of emulating them.

We will curse them for their success, rather than do what is necessary to find success ourselves.

It is not foreign invasion which threatens America, it is internal decay. Few things foster that internal decay more than entitlement and government dependence.

And we will either realize that, and do something about it, or we will perish.

 For original article visit

Monday, April 30, 2012

Simple and effective home remedies

Here   are   some   doctor-approved home remedies that cure back pain, headaches, insomnia, and much more, Home remedies are a staple of natural medicine. They are cheap and fast, often work just as well as a drugstore fix, and may be as near as your spice cabinet, refrigerator, or laundry room.

Sore throat
Mix together a clove bud, which is anti­septic and fights infection, with 1/4 teaspoon powdered ginger (or 1 teaspoon grated fresh ginger) and 1/8 teaspoon cinnamon — the latter two because of their anti-inflammato­ry properties. Infuse the tea in 2 cups boiling water, and for every cup, stir in 1 teaspoons soothing and sweet raw honey. Sip throughout the day until your throat settles down.

Douse it with a cup of antioxidant-packed green tea. which will naturally exfoliate dry flakes without dehydrating skin. Steep two bags of green tea in 1 cup hot water for 20 minutes to overnight. Once it has cooled, massage the strong tea into your scalp.

Treat them with tea tree oil and witch hazel, both of which have antiseptic and anti-inflammatory properties. As soon as you feel a pimple forming, dot either tonic on the area twice a day for 2 or 3 days. Never use rubbing alcohol because that only dries out and irritates skin without having any effect on the bacteria that cause acne.

Take a lukewarm bath with 1 cup added ground oatmeal (grind it with a mortar and pestle; instant oatmeal works fine), 1 cup whole milk, 2 tablespoons honey, and 2 ta­blespoons aloe vera gel. Oatmeal is anti-in­flammatory, honey is antiseptic, milk's proteins and fats soothe skin, and aloe numbs pain. Afterward, moisturise with a cream containing hydrating shea butter and aloe.

Drink a cup of chamomile tea. The herb has an antispasmodic effect that stops con­tractions in the lower intestine.

Sip one cup hot water steeped with 1 tea­spoon caraway seeds, which stifle the en­zymatic action that causes gas.

Clean the area. Then cut a piece of duct tape to a size slightly bigger than the wait. Apply the duct tape to the site and rub into place. Every three days, remove the tape and file down dead skin with a pumice stone or nail file. Repeat until the wart disappears. Chemicals in the tape suffocate and kill the wart.

These are the natural fixes experts trust. Follow label directions and use them to :


1 ) Ginseng
 (Chinese herb with palmately compound leaves and small greenish flowers and forked aromatic roots believed to have medicinal powers)

All varieties of ginseng stimulate the re­lease of an adrenal hormone called ACTH, which increases alertness and physical per­formance. Look for products that contain 4 -5 per cent ginsenosides, the root's active ingredient. Caveat: Do not use ginseng if you're taking antibiotics or the blood thinner warfarin.

2) Guarana

The seeds of guarana, a Brazilian shrub , boost memory, mood, and alertness. Caveat: Be­cause guarana contains caffeine, do not use if you have high blood pressure or a heart condition.

BEAT PAIN AND   inflammation         

Omega-3 Fatty Acids   
Found in fish oils and   flaxseed, omega-3s effectively tamp down inflam
mation and pain. Caveat:       Because   omega-3s  thin        the biood, do not use if  
you are already taking a daily dose of aspirin or warfarin. Capsaicin compound found in  hot peppers . Capsaicin soothes sore muscles by
first  stimulating, and then decreasing pain signals.

1.Psyllium Husks (Plantain of Mediterranean regions whose seeds swell and become gelatinous when moist and are used as a mild laxative - fleawort, Spanish psyllium, Plantago psyllium)
Taken with at least 8 ounces of water or juice as a fibre powder, psyllium aids in the absorption of food and prevents constipation by absorbing liquid in the intestines, making a softer stool that's easier to pass. Caveat: Use as part of a daily wellness regimen; do not use if you have stomach pain, nausea, or vomiting.

The active ingredients in ginger root can calm queasiness and relieve indigestion and excessive gas.

A Swedish study found that employees given "healthy" bacteria supplements every day missed less work because of illness than those given none.
Andrographis (Kirayat in Hindi , Nilavembu, Sirunangai, Siriyanangai in Tamil)

Our natural-health advisor, James Duke, vouches for this Asian plant's ability to pre­vent colds or curtail their symptoms.
New York Times News Service

Courtesy : The Hindu


Cuddalore                                                                                      Date line 08/01/2012

Thane was announced  well in time. But nobody thought it would be of such a magnitude creating  havoc in the life of so many people. Unlike the tsunami of 2006 loss of life was negligible. The damage to infrastructure –power , water supply and communication systems, crops, poultry was immense.
The power supply was cut on the night of 29th Dec as a precautionary measure.It failed when the cyclone struck in the early hours of 30thJan 2012.It was  restored only today 8th Jan by 6 pm in Cuddalore. The power supply to rural areas and to agricultural pump sets is yet to be restored. The cyclone did a heavy damage to Cuddalore district and Pondicherry. Thousands of trees every where have fallen. Electric posts have fallen in large numbers about 5000. Besides, about 300 transformers have been dislodged. Crops in lakhs of acres have been damaged due to the cyclone  Cashew, casuarinas, sugarcane, coconut paddy all lost over night. I also incurred loss due to falling of teak wood trees  (21) and coconut 50. coconut trees are 5 years old and expected to bear next year. The moringa and lime trees in my kitchen garden and neem tree in front of our house were all damaged. The 5 feet dish antenna I had in the 2nd floor terrace was lifted  (அலேக்கா) over the 3 feet parapet wall and it fell on the compound wall breaking the custard apple tree (சீத்தாப் பழம்) and damaging the service wiring from the street post.

 In major parts of Cuddalore power is yet to be restored. We were literally in dark as cell phones could not be charged and many cell towers did not function after the cyclone. Only BSNL cells worked fairly well despite their main tower in the town falling on the fateful day. The towers were powered by generator. Power was given to the one of the main roads after 6 days. Now every day they are setting right one after other. Even today in my street only 2 houses are powered and the rest are in dark as they are served by  another transformer. People suffered as there was no water supply from 30th till about yesterday. Some thing was done by water tanker lorries here and there on some days which could not meet all the needs of all the people. We had to here in generator to run the motor to lift water. Generators were in demand and we had to pay more and use influence to get one. Since I had a bigger tank and as it was filled on 29th we could manage for the first 5 days and then got the generator. 
Milk was sold for as high as Rs 100 a litre on 30th.It was in short supply in the first 4 or 5 days. Now it is more or less normal. The condition the rural areas is still worse. No water supply and no power supply. Agricultural pump sets can not be run for another one month at least .Kerosene was not available and it was also sold for up to Rs 100 per litre. Then it was not available as all had to use it for lighting. All essential things like candles, rava, maida etc were charged exorbitantly on 30th and 31st. Then it was out of stock as roads were blocked by fallen trees.
In short it was a night mare.
I took some photographs of fallen/broken trees on 30th Dec. But due water drop falling on the camera it has been short circuited and I can hope to see and share the photos only after taking to the Sony service centre.
The Government has announced relief and it has not reached every body as there is no scientific method to ensure that it reached all the affected people. The pity is what is happening in the district is known to all others and not the residents in the district as there is no power in most of the areas till now. Cable TV has failed as many dishes have been damaged. 

The worst was what happened to my Sony digital camera. It was damaged when I attempted to take a photograph of the fallen dish antenna using flash. The technician says it can not be repaired as the circuit board has been damaged
It is a mad mad world and it is a sad sad story. I will stop here as I am afraid you may start crying!

Saturday, October 8, 2011



 The quality of parent - child interactions gains prominence in view of the marked impression it has on the child's further development. Personality disposition of the child is moulded by his Parent child relationship plays an important role in the personality development of the child. reaction to parental behaviour.
   As the infant progress into childhood, he must master new competencies, learn usable assumptions about himself and the world, and exert increasing inner control over his behaviour. During this period, the family unit remains the crucial guiding influence. However, parent - child relationships and family interactions are extremely complex matters.
Most parents have their own ideas on child rearing . Confounding the problem is the  generation gap that confuses parental attitudes towards their children’s behavioural    pattern, besides socio-cultural factors , gender discrimination and educational  competition.

Parental  relationship


Child Behavioural Pattern

Physical neglect, denial of love and affection, harsh or inconsistent punishment, failure to spend time with the child, lack of interest in his/her activities and achievements and lack of respect for the his rights and feelings as a person.


Thumb sucking, bed wetting, aggressiveness, negativism. Jealousy, Slowness in conscience development, self-hurting

Over protection and domination. Submissiveness. low self-evaluation, some dulling of intellectual striving, dependency


Submissiveness. low self-evaluation, some dulling of intellectual striving, dependency.
Over permissiveness and over indulgence.

Selfishness, demanding attitude, inability to tolerate frustration, lack of responsibility, stubbornness.

Perfectionism with unrealistic demands.


Severe conflicts, self-condemnation, guilt, rigidness; lack of spontaneity

Lack of discipline, harsh, overly severe discipline, inconsistent discipline.


Aggressiveness, antisocial behaviour, fear, hatred of parent, little initiative, lack of friendly feelings towards others, over conflicts

Contradictory demands and communications


Unclear self-identity, lack of initiative, self-devaluation, low self-confidence.

Undesirable parental models.


Formulation of unrealistic goals, delinquency.  extreme anxiety, nervousness.

       Based on this, child rearing attitudes could be improved. Psychological counselling   could  be offered to      
       alleviate healthy parent-child relationship and to prevent certain   unwanted behavioural patterns in    

      Gitanjali Sharma

      Courtesy : THE HINDU, Sunday, February 26,1995