Saturday, October 8, 2011

FAULTY PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS.


                   
 FAULTY PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS.

 The quality of parent - child interactions gains prominence in view of the marked impression it has on the child's further development. Personality disposition of the child is moulded by his Parent child relationship plays an important role in the personality development of the child. reaction to parental behaviour.
   As the infant progress into childhood, he must master new competencies, learn usable assumptions about himself and the world, and exert increasing inner control over his behaviour. During this period, the family unit remains the crucial guiding influence. However, parent - child relationships and family interactions are extremely complex matters.
Most parents have their own ideas on child rearing . Confounding the problem is the  generation gap that confuses parental attitudes towards their children’s behavioural    pattern, besides socio-cultural factors , gender discrimination and educational  competition.


Parental  relationship

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Child Behavioural Pattern

Physical neglect, denial of love and affection, harsh or inconsistent punishment, failure to spend time with the child, lack of interest in his/her activities and achievements and lack of respect for the his rights and feelings as a person.




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Thumb sucking, bed wetting, aggressiveness, negativism. Jealousy, Slowness in conscience development, self-hurting

Over protection and domination. Submissiveness. low self-evaluation, some dulling of intellectual striving, dependency



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Submissiveness. low self-evaluation, some dulling of intellectual striving, dependency.
Over permissiveness and over indulgence.

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Selfishness, demanding attitude, inability to tolerate frustration, lack of responsibility, stubbornness.

Perfectionism with unrealistic demands.

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Severe conflicts, self-condemnation, guilt, rigidness; lack of spontaneity

Lack of discipline, harsh, overly severe discipline, inconsistent discipline.


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Aggressiveness, antisocial behaviour, fear, hatred of parent, little initiative, lack of friendly feelings towards others, over conflicts

Contradictory demands and communications

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Unclear self-identity, lack of initiative, self-devaluation, low self-confidence.



Undesirable parental models.



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Formulation of unrealistic goals, delinquency.  extreme anxiety, nervousness.






































































       Based on this, child rearing attitudes could be improved. Psychological counselling   could  be offered to      
       alleviate healthy parent-child relationship and to prevent certain   unwanted behavioural patterns in    
       children.

      Gitanjali Sharma

      Courtesy : THE HINDU, Sunday, February 26,1995




Thursday, October 6, 2011

DIVINING OF MATERIALS HIDDEN BELOW THE GROUND.

DIVINING OF MATERIALS HIDDEN BELOW THE GROUND.

Many years back I came across this material. I do not recollect the source. It was not from internet as I read this before Internet came in to existence. I have not tried this myself. But I have a firm belief that it will work as the magnetism of the human body is well established / experienced now.

Take 2 lengths of copper wire -1/16" thick and 34" long. Now bend the last 6" of each wire at right angles forming 2 'L's. The short 6" of the wire serve as handle; the long 28" wires serve as pointers.

Hold the 2 rods lightly-one in each hand. They should be 12" apart, parallel to each other and parallel to the ground. The grips should be held loosely in a vertical position. Now commence walking slowly over the ground concentrating on the object of search.

If it is a water pipe your are seeking to find, then when you approach or cross the buried pipe, the divining rods will tremble and swivel inwards and cross over each other at the precise spot.

However, there is a strange anomaly; if your blood group is RH negative, the rods will swivel outward to either side instead of singing inwards and crossing.