Wednesday, March 22, 2023

Forgive me, my lady love.

 I welcome you with an honest bow ;

You turned your face the other day;

And I am down in spirits to this day.


With you, all my joy and happiness have gone;

To earn your ill will, what have I done?

Be a good girl and forgive;

I am not bad as you believe.


My evenings are bad and my nights are worse,

Since you left me in a lurch.

I roll and roll on my couch

Longing for your magical touch.


Show me your face with a smile.

It will bolden my spirits.

I am a dry leaf, after your fight;

Will turn green and fresh at your sight.

 

I lie in wait for you with hope;

In the dark, through the blankets, I grope.

No breakfast, no lunch and dinner go waste;

Come home, all my food is sure to taste.


It is a full moon, my dear, I wait in vain.

Without you, what am I going to gain?

Oh, beauty, be my side as my bride

Sure I will walk around with pride.


You are rich in love, why hide?

For all my mistakes, you may chide.

I regret the words I spoke, 

You can come with a bang and rebuke.


I surrender and submit my belle;

Forgive me, if you don't, who will?


Monday, January 16, 2023

Varnikaa, my granddaughter.

 Varnikaa, oh sweet child so small,

With eyes as bright as a summer's hall, Your laughter echoes through the home, Bringing joy where it had once roamed.

You dance and sing with such delight, Your spirit shining so very bright, With innocence in all you do, The world is new and fresh to you.

As you grow, may you stay true, To the wonder and curiosity that is you, May you always see the beauty in life, And know that you will always have a place in our hearts as a granddaughter.

With love, we'll watch you bloom, Varnikaa, our precious granddaughter, Forever in our hearts, you'll stay, A shining star that lights our way.




Thanks to chat.openai.com which wrote this poem based on the particulars keyed in.

Wednesday, June 3, 2020

Goodbye now!


(This is my reaction to a poem titled ”Goodbye” by my niece Tmt. Meena Suresh. Her poem is annexed)

Goodbye, say it or not,

A day will come that

We may leave, parting others

For times, better, or worse.

 

Days will pass nd we may drift,

parting our ways.

Find no time to say a

Hello or hi.

 

With years, we may not cognize

Ourselves or others

Also, a day may come,

Sooner, than I think.

Sudden nd unexpected,

To relinquish, one and all, forever.

 

No time or mood, to say bye.

Better I say now, goodbye.

Goodbye my child, goodbye.

No regrets later, for

Not telling it, before.




THE POEM BY MY NIECE.

GOODBYE by Tmt. Meena Suresh.

Let's not say goodbye

It sounds too final....

As if we are closing the doors

Of shared thoughts over

The years unknowingly...


Let's not say goodbye

Bye and bye can only

Detach us from time immortal

As it looks over wafting memories

For years unknowingly


Let's not say goodbye

Goodness never opens

And closes as too many souls

Had interlaced their existence

Over the years unknowingly...


Let's not say goodbye....

Sometimes somewhere something

Someone will take us closer together

And make us feel one ....to unite

Along the years unknowingly....


Friday, February 22, 2019

Granddaughter.

My Granddaughter

Little baby, the smart baby of our home,
Stretches and folds her legs, cycling in the air
Like Monalisa’s, her smile is enigmatic
If a familiar face passes, she would turn to see.

She remains awake at nights as much as she can
She sleeps during the day if not disturbed.
If we wake her up, we get a look of disapproval!
Smiles at her mother, all the while.

She offers her cheek for us to kiss,
But her language we are yet to learn!
We waited a long time for her arrival,
Her manners and gesture are new every day.


People say she is like her mother,
Like her aunt, uncle or grandma.
She is not a copy of anyone and
None would be equal to her.

Swims on the floor, restlessly,
Eagerly waiting for her to speak
Her shouting, music to our ears!
Can’t catch her a year or two from now.
Will be telling us, stories every day.

Oh baby, yet to be weaned, and no teeth;
Little darling, my son’s daughter!


Tuesday, August 21, 2018

10 Tips to Bear in Mind to Ensure Happiness

10 Tips to Bear in Mind to Ensure Happiness - Thanks to www.ba-bamail.com
 When seeking a happy life, psychological barriers, a negative mindset and a narrow mind are three factors that will stop us from doing so. To break this circle, many people read classical, science fiction and religious books. One such famous psychiatrist, Mikhail Efimovich Litvak, wrote a book where he describes the most common psychological barriers that prohibit us from living happy and healthy lives. So, what are you waiting for? Turn your life around by following this advice: 


1. Happiness is a side effect of a properly organized life
As psychiatrist Victor Frankl pointed out, happiness, joy, and success are side effects of a well-organized life. You need to do things that make you experience and reach these sensations and states. If your goal is to reach the 'side effect' you will never reach it since it isn't something that you just get and have to keep.  
2. When talking to a person, remember they also have a high opinion of themselves, just like you do
Never forget that someone with whom you are speaking is also a person that has their own views and their own reasons to have such views. Every person you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about and for this reason, you should always respect other people. 
3. How can anyone help you if you are not doing anything yourself?
Words are impalpable. A person is defined by their actions and nobody will help you if you just keep walking around and telling other people that you are going to write a book. After all, how can anyone help you if you haven't even begun the process? When you finally decide to write a book and take a copy to an editor, you can always find people who are ready to help and support you. Your work is something real, not just words. 
4. Become successful, and all hard feelings will disappear
Most grudges develop because you feel unsatisfied with yourself. Sometimes, we hold a grudge against someone and we may think that the only person who can fix it is the one with whom we are upset. But this mechanism works differently. One of Mikhail Litvak's students had said: "My success outshined my grudges". This is absolutely true. Start doing what you love and become successful at it. This will enable you to surpass your grudges. 
5. Do you want to see your biggest enemy? Look in the mirror!
Most people fight other people's demons when in reality, they should be fighting their own. The only real enemy we face is us. You can't get out of this situation without breaking the barriers that don't let you grow and develop. We exist within very strict boundaries that society created with the education that we received as children. What this means is that we exist within very strict boundaries that society created with the education we received as children. These rules are often taken for granted. However, all of modern psychology is looking for a way to fight them. Sometimes, people get psychotic trying to fight them. But most of the time, we don't even notice that we are fighting. Until finally, we are ready to meet ourselves face-to-face - this will be the last enemy we would ever encounter. 
6. Look for the right path instead of the straight path. The right path may not always be straight
Consider this example: You are on the 30th floor and you need to go down. The fastest way to do so is to go through the window. But this is probably the moment where your journey ends and the wiser choice would be to look for an elevator, or at the least, the stairs, even if the building is dark and is hard to find anything inside. A person who chooses the straight way instead of the right one looks a lot like a fly who is trying to get through the window even though it's faster to get through the open door nearby. 
7. When a person doesn’t have a goal, they don’t see anything. A goal sharpens the vision.
Have you ever realized that when you need to buy something, for example, something for your grandmother's garden, you start noticing it absolutely everywhere? Even when you no longer need it, you come to realize that you are still looking for it. The same goes for your goals. Your attention is limited and you can only notice the things you need. A goal is similar to setting the focus on a camera: if you set it wrong, you won't see what you really need. 
8. If you want to prove something to someone, it means that you live for that person.
If happiness is what you are seeking, stop trying to prove that you are right. Think about the essence of any proof: it is an attempt to change someone's opinion about something. But why would you do that? It turns out that their opinion is much more important than yours when you put in the effort to change it. When you live your life for yourself, there is no point in trying to prove anything to anyone. 
9. The ability to love and accept loneliness is a sign of an emotionally mature person. We do the best things when we are alone.
People who hate themselves can't stand being alone. They will try to join a group of people thinking that it will make them feel better. A person who is mentally mature uses the alone time for self-development and to collect information to share with other people later. One of the most important factors of any communication is not only taking but giving something that might be interesting to other people. 
10. Happiness is when what you WANT, CAN, and MUST do is the same thing.

Most people are torn in two directions: must, but don't want to; want, but can't and so on. But the only thing that a person truly needs to focus on is to develop themselves. Anything else is extra. The things you want to do should be regulated by the things that you must do, such as self-development. What you can do is a force that moves the entire system. Litvak suggests making a list of things based on the aforementioned directions in order to sort your goals and values properly.

Saturday, July 28, 2018

TEN pieces of Advice from a Supreme Court Judge.

TEN pieces of pieces of ADVICE from a Supreme Court JUDGE who handled Family Dispute Courts:
Published on April 24, 2018, on Linked.in


1. Don't encourage your son and his wife to stay under the same roof with you. Best to suggest them to move out, even to the extent of renting a house. It's their problem to find a separate home.
More the distance between you and your children's families, the better is the relationship with your in-laws.
2. Treat your son's wife as his wife, not as your own daughter, maybe just treat her as a friend. Your son would always be your Junior but, if you think that his wife is of the same rank and if you ever scolded her, she would remember it for life. In real life, only her own mother and not u will be viewed as a person qualified to scold or correct her.
3. Whatever habits or characters your son's wife has is not your problem at all, it is your son's problem. It isn't your problem as he is an adult already.
4. Even when living together, make each other's businesses clear, don't do their laundry, don't cook for them and don't babysit their children. Unless, of course, there is a special request by your son's wife and you feel that you're capable and don't expect anything in return. Most importantly, you shouldn't worry about your son's family problems. Let them settle themselves.

5. Pretend to be blind and deaf when your son and his wife are quarrelling. It's normal that the young couple does not like their parents to be involved in the dispute between husband and wife.
6. Your grandchildren totally belong to your son and his wife. However they want to raise their children, it is up to them. The credit or blame would be on them.

7. Your son's wife need not necessarily respect and serve you. It is the son's duty. You should have taught your son to be a better person so that you and your son's wife relationship could be better.
8. Do more planning for your own retirement, don't rely on your children to take care of your retirement. You had already walked through most of your journey in life, there are still a lot of new things to learn throughout the journey.

9. It is your own interest that you enjoy your retirement years. Better if you could utilise & enjoy everything that you had saved before you die. Don't let your wealth become worthless to you.

10. Grandchildren don't belong to your family, they're their parents' precious gift.

Karan Pal Singh
(Advocate)



Monday, April 16, 2018

If I Had My Life to Live Over... ( If I can relive my life)

Erma Bombeck was an American humorist who achieved great popularity for her newspaper column that described suburban home life from the mid-1960s until the late 1990s 

This was written after she found out she was dying of cancer.



"I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day. 
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.” There would have been more “I love you’s.” More “I’m sorry’s.”

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute…look at it and really see it .. live it .and never give it back.Stop sweating the small stuff. Don’t worry about who doesn’t like you, who has more, or who’s doing what.Instead, let’s cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.
Let’s think about what we've been blessed with. And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally.
I hope you all have a blessed day..."